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Periods and Me

Fellow Badasses,

Let me tell you about what I call my Phantom Period…

I’ve been on the contraceptive pill since I was 17, so almost 20 years. I’ve been on a few different pills over the years and its never let me down.

About 3 years ago I switched my pill to Cerazette, a progestogen-only pill. Cerazette works by thickening the mucus in the cervix, which stops sperm reaching an egg.

It also stopped my periods.

When I changed my contraceptive pill due to migraines, I had no idea that I wouldn’t bleed again. It wasn’t mentioned to me when my doctor discussed the pill with me. When I brought it up at my next appointment he assured me it was a common side effect and would do me no harm.

So, I don’t have periods anymore. Nothing. Zip. Not even a little spotting. And you’d probably think it’s great and to be fair, for the most part it is! But it’s a surreal experience to have cramps but no blood. I call it my Phantom Period. It’s medical title is amenorrhoea.

This lack of bleeding hasn’t stopped me from being period positive. I donate time, money and products to charities that provide menstrual products to the homeless and those on low income. I will happily discuss periods with everyone and anyone. But I’ll be honest with you, there are some products that give me the heebie jeebies!

I’m a pad woman, when I needed them, and will always champion these over tampons or moon cups. No shade on those who do use tampons etc more power to ya. I’ve just never got on with internal products.

I also think it’s important that most brands take note of the exclusionary language they use when selling their products. And those unnecessary products designed to ‘clean your intimate feminine area’ I mean, c’mon!

Like I said I still get cramps and I still feel a little delicate or ready to burn the world to the ground during my Phantom Period.

Is there anything I miss about my period?

Honestly the only thing I miss, and this a little irrational but if a friend starts talking about what a horrible period they’re having, I sometimes have a feeling of missing out.

Obviously, after having periods since the age of 12, I can sympathise with my friends but I’m sometimes I’m very aware of a disconnect. I’m still working through what it is I’m feeling when this happens. I don’t for one second feel any less of a woman, so what the hell is this feeling all about?!

So that’s my Phantom Period. Anyone out there experience the same feeling of not being able to commiserate in quite the same way because you’re not experiencing it the same way anymore?

Thanks for reading!

Moxie McMurder

The Badass Manifesto

Feminist Media – Who Can We Trust? 

Can we really trust any news outlet? 

Bitch Media posted a really interesting piece recently called You’re Getting Hustled by Bustle in which they explain, amongst other things that Bustle has created a new app called the BustleBHive that’s essentially a “group of readers who will be mined for user data that’s sold to advertisers”.

Feminism has become big business lately, feminist slogans on t-shirts, buttons and badges. Sites have started catering to feminists and you could see this as brilliant or rampant capitalism, it’s up to you – thus the glory of feminism.

“Corporate-owned media, especially in the past several years, is interested in publishing feminist content first and foremost to make money for advertisers and investors on a group of consumers who have historically been difficult to sell to.” – Bitch Media

Bustle isn’t the only site to come under fire not not adhering to the feminist ideals it purports to support, Jezebel and Feministing along side a few others have also been called out for being at best hypocritical and at worst expressing a lot of internalised misogyny.

I’ve got some trust issues with feminist media, we’ve been duped so many times. I’m an intersectional feminist, I’ve followed many feminist media accounts that seemed cool, only to be disappointed to find they’re pushing a racist or anti-trans narrative behind their so called feminism. I can’t hit unfollow fast enough! 

So, who can you trust or support when faced with dodgy politics, using sex to attract readers, pro TERF (Trans Exlusionary Radical Feminist) and SWERF (Sex Worker Exclusionary Radical Feminist) articles?
Here are a few of the sites I visit most often, how about you? Got any good feminist sites I should be reading?

Bitch Media

Everyday Sexism

The Establishment

Everyday Feminism

Autostraddle

It’s worth pointing out that there is no such thing as a perfect feminist, we all make mistakes but we should be acknowledging those mistakes and then do better.

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Moxie McMurder
The Badass Manifesto