Category Archives: Badass Feminism

Autumn is here!

I love autumn, it’s by far my favourite season. The air becomes crisper, the leaves turn beautiful colours and you can smell a bonfire in the distance.

I suppose autumn really starts at the beginning of September but for me, autumn is all about October. It has atmosphere and of course Halloween, my favourite day of the year is right around the corner.

I don’t fully understand it but Autumn brings out the seasonal haters. I’m a Grinch, not a fan of Christmas but I’d never give anyone grief over it. It’s weirdly gendered hate too. It bothers a lot of people that women love this time of year. They hate our love of oversized cosy jumpers, stepping on crispy golden and red leaves while we pin aesthetically pleasing autumnal images on Pinterest as we drink the necar of the seasonal gods, the glorious pumpkin spice latte.

Just the mere mention of the PSL sends some people into fits of passive aggressiveness. And you know what? I don’t give a fuck. I enjoy the things I enjoy. God forbid women enjoy something. Calling women basic bitches for loving a delicious coffee is just pathetic. And it happens every year. Every. Year.

I think it’s great that I have so many autumnal kindred spirits out there. Let us rejoice in the spookiest season there is!

The end of the year has begun, 2018 is creeping up on us. This year really is flying by so fast.

Moxie McMurder

(All photography by Burn the Witch Art – me!)

Advertisements

Badass Books – Basic Witches

Basic Witches: How To Summon Success, Banish Drama And Raise Hell With Your Coven

I was sent a copy of Basic Witches, published by Quirk Books and it’s so cute and full of empowerment and witchy wisdom so I wanted to share a few words about it.

What is on the one hand, an introduction to witchcraft Basic Witches is also a cool introduction to feminist ideas. Through witchcraft (and we’ll get into that in a moment) we gain empowerment, something I totally agree with.

Witchy Woman
The night is dark and full of terrors.

Witches are the original Badasses. Society has always feared powerful women and by embracing the very things that society deems unbecoming of a woman, we gain a sense of independence and empowerment.

Basic Witches is a mix of spells, a little bit of witch history and a fun read covering many different aspects of self empowerment, positive thinking and self acceptance. From enchanting a special piece of jewellry to rituals for regaining strength and confidence I really enjoyed the fun take on witchcraft. The potions are a fun read, I like to work a little magic when I’m in the kitchen!
There is even a section on witch exercise , yup coven callisthenics!

Authors Jaya Saxena and Jess Zimmerman are both accomplished writers. Saxena is a Staff Writer for Elle as well as having articles on sites like The Daily Dot, the New Yorker, Buzzfeed and more. Zimmerman is a contributing Editor of one of my favourite sites the Establishment. Her writing has also featured on Atlas Obscura, the Guardian and plenty of other cool sites. And I love these cute witchy illustrations by Camille Chew, an artist I was already a fan of after spotting her work on Pinterest.

BasicWitchesReview

What the authors call witchcraft is not your usual definition, theirs is best described as living true to oneself and Basic Witches is like your very own punk DIY grimoire (spellbook). This approch to witchcraft is right up my alley and while I think this book would be of more benefit to a younger reader I think plenty of adults will not ony get a kick out of the irreverent style but perhaps they’ll also find it a great read with powerful intentions.

Blessed Be Badasses!

kiss-mark_medium

Moxie McMurder
The Badass Manifesto

Your Body Positivity Struggles Are Valid

Your body positivity is still valid even if you have times when you struggle to apply it to yourself.

It can be hard to admit when you’re a body positive advocate because it sometimes feels like you’ll be disowned by the community, asked for your fat positivity card back.

But loving or even accepting your body can be difficult and it can take years to reach peace in your own skin. Think about it, if you’ve spent years hating your body, you’re not going to get over it overnight.

I liken this to championing mental health awareness while still struggling with it yourself. Whether you align yourself with the fat acceptance movement or body positive movement, it’s understandable that you’ll have days when you just don’t like what you see in the mirror.

I have days like that all the time. ALL. THE TIME. It’s horrible and I wish I didn’t have days like that. It’s something I hope to address in further posts.

Point being, I struggle with body image but that doesn’t stop me from supporting and championing bodies of all shapes, sizes and abilities.

I’ve seen articles and blog posts discussing whether you can be body positive but still want to lose weight – yes! Can you exercise and still be body positive? – Yes! Can you be skinny and still be body positive? – Of course! The whole point is to see ALL bodies in a positive light.

**It’s important to remember the distinction between the fat acceptance movement and the body positive movement it spawned. Fat acceptance is important to me and I align myself with both movements.**

But it can be hard to discuss the wobbles, the days where you feel down about your body for fear of triggering someone else’s body image issues. For fear of letting people down by admitting that we don’t always love our bodies.

I think it’s important that we share our struggles as well as our victories. Our journeys and our destinations. You have a voice, use it. You never know how many people feel the same way you do until you talk about it. And talking about our experiences brings us together.

Moxie McMurder

The Badass Manifesto

Periods and Me

Fellow Badasses,

Let me tell you about what I call my Phantom Period…

I’ve been on the contraceptive pill since I was 17, so almost 20 years. I’ve been on a few different pills over the years and its never let me down.

About 3 years ago I switched my pill to Cerazette, a progestogen-only pill. Cerazette works by thickening the mucus in the cervix, which stops sperm reaching an egg.

It also stopped my periods.

When I changed my contraceptive pill due to migraines, I had no idea that I wouldn’t bleed again. It wasn’t mentioned to me when my doctor discussed the pill with me. When I brought it up at my next appointment he assured me it was a common side effect and would do me no harm.

So, I don’t have periods anymore. Nothing. Zip. Not even a little spotting. And you’d probably think it’s great and to be fair, for the most part it is! But it’s a surreal experience to have cramps but no blood. I call it my Phantom Period. It’s medical title is amenorrhoea.

This lack of bleeding hasn’t stopped me from being period positive. I donate time, money and products to charities that provide menstrual products to the homeless and those on low income. I will happily discuss periods with everyone and anyone. But I’ll be honest with you, there are some products that give me the heebie jeebies!

I’m a pad woman, when I needed them, and will always champion these over tampons or moon cups. No shade on those who do use tampons etc more power to ya. I’ve just never got on with internal products.

I also think it’s important that most brands take note of the exclusionary language they use when selling their products. And those unnecessary products designed to ‘clean your intimate feminine area’ I mean, c’mon!

Like I said I still get cramps and I still feel a little delicate or ready to burn the world to the ground during my Phantom Period.

Is there anything I miss about my period?

Honestly the only thing I miss, and this a little irrational but if a friend starts talking about what a horrible period they’re having, I sometimes have a feeling of missing out.

Obviously, after having periods since the age of 12, I can sympathise with my friends but I’m sometimes I’m very aware of a disconnect. I’m still working through what it is I’m feeling when this happens. I don’t for one second feel any less of a woman, so what the hell is this feeling all about?!

So that’s my Phantom Period. Anyone out there experience the same feeling of not being able to commiserate in quite the same way because you’re not experiencing it the same way anymore?

Thanks for reading!

Moxie McMurder

The Badass Manifesto

Feminist Media – Who Can We Trust?Β 

Can we really trust any news outlet? 

Bitch Media posted a really interesting piece recently called You’re Getting Hustled by Bustle in which they explain, amongst other things that Bustle has created a new app called the BustleBHive that’s essentially a “group of readers who will be mined for user data that’s sold to advertisers”.

Feminism has become big business lately, feminist slogans on t-shirts, buttons and badges. Sites have started catering to feminists and you could see this as brilliant or rampant capitalism, it’s up to you – thus the glory of feminism.

“Corporate-owned media, especially in the past several years, is interested in publishing feminist content first and foremost to make money for advertisers and investors on a group of consumers who have historically been difficult to sell to.” – Bitch Media

Bustle isn’t the only site to come under fire not not adhering to the feminist ideals it purports to support, Jezebel and Feministing along side a few others have also been called out for being at best hypocritical and at worst expressing a lot of internalised misogyny.

I’ve got some trust issues with feminist media, we’ve been duped so many times. I’m an intersectional feminist, I’ve followed many feminist media accounts that seemed cool, only to be disappointed to find they’re pushing a racist or anti-trans narrative behind their so called feminism. I can’t hit unfollow fast enough! 

So, who can you trust or support when faced with dodgy politics, using sex to attract readers, pro TERF (Trans Exlusionary Radical Feminist) and SWERF (Sex Worker Exclusionary Radical Feminist) articles?
Here are a few of the sites I visit most often, how about you? Got any good feminist sites I should be reading?

Bitch Media

Everyday Sexism

The Establishment

Everyday Feminism

Autostraddle

It’s worth pointing out that there is no such thing as a perfect feminist, we all make mistakes but we should be acknowledging those mistakes and then do better.

kiss-mark_medium

Moxie McMurder
The Badass Manifesto